Have you felt stressed or overwhelmed? Don’t be afraid to set limits


Some weeks the demands of work and the needs of family can go up and up until you’re ready to explode or fall to the ground from exhaustion, that is, unless you protect yourself. creating healthy boundaries.

“The word ‘limit’ gets a bad rap, like trying to keep something out of the way, but they’re actually opportunities to help you navigate where you might need to protect your own personal space,” said declared Hillary Landry, wellness manager at Hartford HealthCare.

Boundaries are personal because each person has different levels of stress tolerance and experiences varying responsibilities and situations that confer such stress. Additionally, certain people or situations in your life might require more boundaries in order to protect you, she said.

“It’s important to remember that having to set more boundaries for that family member or co-worker doesn’t make them wrong or bad, it’s just how you choose to navigate them to retain your emotional energy,” Landry explained.

In order to effectively set boundaries, however, you must first identify your personal triggers, or what Landry called “red flags” or warning signs.

“Think of the stop light – red tells you to stop, take time to pause, think before you can go green,” she said. “We all need to feel empowered to do that.”

She offered the following guidelines for recognizing your red flags and setting healthy boundaries:

  • Be transparent. Once you have established what you can and cannot do in a specific situation – whether it is a colleague, patient, family member or friend – ensure tell the other person clearly and kindly.
  • Be flexible. Boundaries are not physical walls built around you. Only you can decide when to relax your limits or eliminate them altogether. Feel empowered to have a courageous conversation when you feel expectations are unreasonable.
  • Say no. This one word can quickly establish the boundary. You don’t have to explain or feel guilty saying it.
  • Practice. The more you set and maintain healthy boundaries in your work and personal life, the easier and more comfortable the task will become.

“It takes a level of self-compassion to be able to monitor and sort yourself better,” Landry said. “This internal awareness is important to be able to navigate and defend yourself. It increases your confidence and supports your emotional, physical and mental well-being.


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